Thankfully, dressing up your little girl may not be as difficult as you feel! In fact, you might possibly take a walk down memory lane with some of the choices on the market for children this year!

One of the most popular summer movements are leggings; tight, spandex pants that were popular back in the 1980s. Girls are sticking to simple colors, such as black, grey and tan. A number have girlie properties, such as lace on the legs or glitter . There are also differing lengths of leggings, but the modern way to go is to pick out designs that stop at or just below the knee. Not only are leggings trendy, but theyre also a good way to keep little legs warm and protected on colder summer mornings and evenings.

So as to complete the bottom half, most girls decide to wear leggings with something, such as a mini skirt. Skirts can be solid colored, plaid or striped and made from cotton or denim fibres. If your little one doesnt want to wear a skirt, she can decide on a long, flowy top that comes down past her waist as an alternative. Or, your little girl can pick a loose fitting sundress to put on over the leggings. The possibilities are unlimited when it comes to pairing leggings with skirts, dresses and tops!

Indeed, tops and tees that drape over the body are the cool trends for the summer season. There are many editions to these loose fitting tops, like screen-printed tees, plaid tops or those in a diversified assortment of colors. The tops are created from delicate cloth and offer a pastel color palette, some with added ruffles and necklines. Another extra to girls clothes is using organic cotton; cotton that is grown in positive conditions, free of the use of bug sprays. These garments place emphasis on Eco-friendly lifestyle and are breathable and are ultra comfy for children.

Girls fashion trends are constantly turning over and while it may be tough to keep your little angel content with her current wardrobe, growing little ones are always wanting brand-new pairs of pants and tops. Fortunately, this summer season brings about a fresh and vivid assortment of clothing, which range from girls leggings paired with miniskirts or flowy dresses and loosely fitting tops coordinated with denim jeans. While designer clothes are also becoming prevalent among young girls, there are many designer-inspired replicas that come with a more inexpensive price tag. Indeed, you cannot fail to remember the modern assortment of pastel colors, plaid prints and lace that conclude each feminine article of clothing.

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It’s new territory for me, too, and it’s not always easy to know what is his business and what is mine as the boundaries change and expand.

After a pretty nasty fight over his choice of breakfast one morning, I realized that what he ate was no longer my business. (Actually, it really never was my business in the first place, but I sometimes forget that).

My business is what kind of food I purchase and make available in our kitchen. His business is to select from those options, or to choose ‘none of the above’ if he feels so inclined, and go to school and spend his allowance at the vending machine.

So after school I apologized for the way the day had started, and told him that I realized I’d been interfering in his business, and that I’d do my best to stay out of it in the future. He looked at me with such tenderness, and said, “It’s okay, Mom. I know it’s hard for you to get out of my business, because after all you’ve been in it my whole life!”

So it’s a constant balancing act, but I thought I was doing pretty well with it. And then I received a rather scathing email from his dad telling me that our son had not been completing his homework assignments in a timely fashion, and asking why he had not done any work on these long term projects while he was at my house.

He requested that I go through his backpack each night and look at all his papers, checking for due dates and then making sure he stayed on schedule.

Although it seemed to be a logical intervention, something about it was disturbing to me. I didn’t want to do it. I hated the idea of taking over something that I thought was well within the realm of self-responsibility for a sixth grader.

My instinct told me to let my son learn from his own experience what happens when homework isn’t completed on time. But I didn’t want to drop the ball, either. I just wasn’t sure where my responsibility as a parent fell in this situation.

Or more accurately, I had been sure until I got that email, and then I looked around and realized that I really didn’t know this territory, and what if I was lost?

Being the sort of person who loves to gather information and input whenever I’m in a quandary, I decided to contact my son’s teachers, feeling fairly confident that they’ve seen things like this before. If they said it would serve him for me to take over managing his homework, then I would do it, no matter how much the idea repulsed me.

Thankfully, they did not. Instead they fully supported my instinct to let him learn by experiencing the consequences of his choices, even if it meant watching his grades slip while he fumbled to grasp the connection.

One teacher even loaned me her personal copy of the Love and Logic tape called Winning the Homework Battle by Foster Cline and Jim Fay. And that’s what restored my confidence in my instincts.

I’d read their book Parenting with Love and Logic many years ago, and loved their assertion that parents should stay out of the choice/consequence feedback loop as much as possible.

The hallmark example of their philosophy in action is letting a child go out into the cold without a proper jacket. There’s a big difference between your child choosing a jacket next time based on her previous experience of shivering vs. wearing a coat because mom said she couldn’t go out without it.

One is an authentic, repeatable, and sustainable inner awareness of choice and consequence, and the other is compliance with an external authority who must then be present for the desired behavior to occur in the future. I don’t know about you, but I plan to be out of the loop someday, so I’d much prefer intrinsic awareness as a motivator for my kids, and the sooner the better!

The tape was such a timely reminderso clear about what was my problem and what was my son’s, and confirmed what I have seen over and over to be true: there are very few things that I can really and truly MAKE my child do.

I can’t MAKE him eat, I can’t MAKE him be nice, and I can’t MAKE him do his homework. So what can I do?
I can put nourishing food on the table, and share my enjoyment while eating it. I can be nice to him, and to others in front of him, and hope he decides that it feels good and he’d like to be that way, too.

And I can clear off the table after dinner, light a candle, sharpen the pencils, and sit down to balance my checkbook or write a letter during family study time, and invite him to take that opportunity to complete his homework.

The rest is up to him.

The tape was chock full of gems, some of which brought me to tears. Cline and Fay relate several personal stories from their experiences as parents, as well as their own childhoods. A particularly relevant story was shared by Foster Cline, who had a learning disability as a child (back in the days before special ed) and regularly brought home report cards filled with D’s and F’s.

His father would ask him every time if he was proud of his report card, and he would say ‘no, sir.’ To which his father would reply ‘Good! I’m glad to hear that!’ and then sign off on it. There would be no further discussion.

In about 9th grade he grew out of his disability, and went on to become an MD who is very highly regarded today for his extensive knowledge about parenting, among other things. He attributes his success to confidence in himself and his abilities, which was never shaken by his parents, who made a very conscious and deliberate choice to celebrate his strengths and overlook his areas of ‘weakness’.

Cline and Fay refer to studies which conclude that grades simply do not correlate to success in adult life as measured by financial standards or intellectual contributions made to society. What does correlate is how well the individual knows and draws upon their areas of competence, and how capable they feel themselves to be.

Which brings me back to homework. If I rummage through my son’s backpack and then sit down and monitor the completion of his homework, what message am I sending to him? Maybe that I don’t think he’s capable of taking care of this part of his life.

And that is not a message that I want to deliver. So instead, with the help of this tape, I’m hanging back. I’m telling him that I’m aware that he’s having a problem with homework, but that I know he can come up with a solution, and to let me know if there’s any way I can be helpful.

One of my favorite stories on the tape took place when one of their sons decided to test out his freedom to do some, all, or none of his homework. For 13 days in a row, he chose to do none of it. At that point his father said, “So son, it looks like you’ve chosen not to do any of your homework. Is that correct?” And his son grinned and said “Yep, that’s right.”

To which his father replied (using a tried and true Love and Logic phrase), “No problem! I checked with the folks up at the school, and they assured me that they offer 5th grade every year. So anything that you miss from not doing homework this year, you can just pick up by repeating 5th grade next year!” and walked away.

And what do you know, very soon after that, his son of his own accord decided he’d do some homework. And although he did just enough to get by, he did not need to experience 5th twice.

There’s so much on this tape, and the other materials available at www.loveandlogic.com, that rather than go on and on about it I’d just like to highly recommend all of their work. They’ve done a terrific job, so there’s no need for me to reinvent the wheel.

I realize that this is potentially a very controversial approach to parenting. All I can tell you is that I’ve seen it work better than anything else in my own family. So maybe, if like me you feel frustrated and overwhelmed with the old model of parenting, and you are looking for another way, you might want to check it out.

copyright 2006 Karen Alonge

Karen Alonge is an intuitive life coach and parenting consultant with 20 years of experience helping families with all types of challenges. She offers consultations by phone, email, and IM. Clients often notice dramatic changes in their daily experience after only one session. Please visit http://www.karenalonge.com for more information.

Consequences of teenage pregnancy

Unplanned pregnancy poses one of the most devastating problems in life. There is just too much stress to deal with for a teenage mom. The stress that they’re dealing with are time, financial and duties. Imagine the difficulty in juggling the time spent in school, with the baby and earning money just to provide necessities for the baby. Even if a teenage mom decides to forgone of her duties, for example quit school, it does not necessarily makes the situation or the future any better. With insufficient education means that the teenage mom will have to settle for low-paying jobs or worse, being unemployed.

Prevention of teenage pregnancy

I believe one of the most effective prevention measures is by promoting abstinence. Parents should try instilling moral or religious values in their kids. It will prove to be the best prevention, rather than encouraging safe sex with the use of condoms etc.

Proper guidance of teens does not start tomorrow, but today. It’s easy for them to ruin their futures by making a simple mistake and it’s our responsibility as parents, teachers, the society etc to guide them to the right path.

Useful hotline

Planned Parenthood
1-800-230-PLAN

National Abortion Federation
1-800-772-9100

National Adoption Center
1-800-862-3678

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The first thing that you should really think about when choosing a camp for your child is the age and maturity level of your child. Most children that are younger than 9 years old are not old enough for a sleep-away camp yet. They may be able to handle one or two nights away, but longer than that could be difficult. After age nine, the summer camp length can gradually increase to anywhere from a week to a few weeks. In order to prepare your child for their first experience sleeping away from home at summer camp, you may want to have them spend a night or two with a close friend or relative.

The next thing that you will need to decide is what type of camp. You may be in an area which offers a summer camp program through the city and school district which offer a wide selection of activities. You may also be able to find music, drama, sports, or computer camps that are only day camps. A sleep away camp may have a focus on anything from horsemanship, to surfboarding, to weight loss. You can find a lot of information about different camps by looking on the internet.

Before your child attends any camp you will need to do some very intensive questioning and research. You should find out what a daily schedule looks like, how free time is spent, what the menu is, and what the ratio of staff to campers is. You will also need to find out what kind of medical training and facilities the camp offers and what the emergency notification procedures are. Ask how you will be able to contact your child. You may even want to find someone who has had a child at that particular camp and ask them questions. Give your child a lifetime of memories from camp.

Eriani Doyel writes articles about kids and teens. To learn more about choosing a summer camp visit yscamp.com

For a bundle of reasons, a person might become short sighted. The offical term for this is shortsightedness. When somebody is shortsighted, they can’t focus well into the distance, on the other hand they can see fairly clearly, when looking up close at things.

The degree to which one is nearsighted depends on the powers of the cornea and the lens of the eye and the length of the eyeball. In a normal eye the incoming visual images meet on the retina in the back of the eye. If these visual images converge in front of the retina instead of on the retina, then one is myopic.

shortsightedness does decreases in later life. This appears not to be related to a decrease in close work as is often proposed however rather due to some agent intrinsically related to ageing. It has been hypothesized the power of the lens of the eye changes in later life.

About 1 in 4 Americans are shortsighted.

nearsightedness is diagnosed by checking a child’s unaided vision and is confirmed objectively by the ophthalmic optician with various techniques, including retinoscopy and refraction.

To assess the specific nature of your nearsightedness, specific tests will need to be carried out to look at how well your eyes can focus on nearby as well as far away targets. Your eye movements will also be assessed as might your retina.

There are many children who will be falsely assessed to be nearsighted, due to the fact that of their natural tendency to over focus. To counter this, a trained eye pratitioner will often elect to dilate the pupils with some eye drops to prevent the child’s lenses from over correcting.

eyeglasses will be needed to correct your shortsightedness. For children under the age of 4, eyeglasses may not be needed though. .

Once a child starts school, then being able to focus on the board becomes important for learning, etc. So they should be regularly assessed for the need to wear eyeglasses or the need to change their prescription.

Spectacles will commonly need to be worn all the time. There are a few children who have a rare problem with converging their eyes and they may need to actually remove their specs for when they need to do close up work.

You’ve got mail: Let children send electronic Christmas cards. Print out e-mail addresses for family and friend and log-on to www.uptoten.com. This site has many amusing cards (including dressing a reindeer) that will please children and recipients alike.

Reward program: Consult your Holiday Notebook for tasks left undone which children could conquer. Create a “point” system and let children earn points for chipping in to help. Use a formula like 100 points = $1.00 and take the children shopping to “redeem” their points when the post-holiday sales begin.

Guessing games: A creative centerpiece idea is to have children wrap miscellaneous items from their room or extra items in the house (a CD, a Lego®, a pencil) in holiday paper. These can be arranged as a festive centerpiece. Children at your get-together can then try to guess what each item is while adults enjoy a cup of coffee after dinner.

Assigned Seating: Let children create place cards by folding cardstock or cardboard in half. Bring out the markers, glitter, sequins, magazines, and anything else you have handy.
Let their imagination run wild. If your family has a good sense of humor, let young kids draw
pictures of each guest. Guests can try and identify their “assigned seat.”

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We get in touch with the Department of Juvenile Justice and communicate with them about the bully’s behavior.

With several of the bullies, we would send the P.O. the daily checklist, so he/she would know how the bully was behaving every day.

Also, we send any disciplinary referrals to D.J.J.

In some states, a school disciplinary referral will cause the bully to be sent to a detention center for a short period of time.

The most important idea is that the bully knows you are going to have open communication with the legal system that is monitoring him/her. For us, that one
fact keeps some bullies on their best behavior.

And that is all we want, isn’t it?

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When your kids have problems, do you abandon those wonderful listening skills and jump in to tell them how to fix their problems or analyze their handling of a situation? Yes, you have life experience. Yes, you have wisdom. Yes, you can probably save your child some grief if only he ‘listened to you’.
Most likely you cannot fix their problems anyway, or they may just tune you out, and most of all, they miss a chance to learn a life management skill.

If you gave your kids what you give your friends when they need a listener, chances are better that you will get what every parent craves: an inside view of what is going on in the mind of their child.
So give yourself a break. Just listen. Give your kids what you would give your best friend. Here are five tips to help you really listen to your kids.

1. Listen without interruption. That says “What you feel matters to me.”

2. Accept their feelings no matter how absurd, misguided, or naive they seems to you. Of course you want to guide your children to have sound values but where possible, let them have experience in ‘figuring it out’ themselves.

3. If you feel your child is stuck and it is important that you try to help, ask permission to enter the subject: “Do you want me to tell you what I think?” or “Can I make a suggestion?” And make it a couple of good quick, to-the-point nuggets, and pause. As your child trusts that you will allow him to do his own problem solving, he will be more receptive and even interested in your views.

4. Listen for the feelings behind the words. It helps kids to feel understood. As you hear your child’s words, ask yourself “What is my child feeling about this matter?” Frustrated? Proud? Confused?

5. Use a reflective listening formula: “You feel __________because_________.”
. After you hear your child’s words, you mirror back words that you believe describe how she feels. “You feel let down because Lori did not call you when she said she would.” Do not presume to know your child’s feelings. If you are not sure, say, in a questioning tone: “Let me see if I have this right. You feel angry because you did not make it on time to get to play in the game.” This one is particularly helpful for practicing feelings identification with kids and adults who have Autism or Asperger Syndrome.

Special tip for success: In the beginning, your child may find this new way of communicating strange and perhaps not trustworthy. Do not force it, be patient, be consistent with your listening skills, giving your child time to figure it out, relax and trust in it.

Ellen Mossman-Glazer M.Ed. is a Life Skills Coach and Behavioral Specialist, specializing in Asperger Syndrome, High Functioning Autism, ADHD, and learning difficulties. Over her 20 years in special education classrooms and treatment settings, Ellen has seen the struggle that children and adults have when they feel they don’t fit in. She now works in private practice by phone, teleconference groups and email, helping parents, educators, caregivers and their challenging loved ones, to find their own specific steps and tools to thrive. Ellen is the author of two on line e-zines, Emotion Matters: Tools and Tips for Working with Feelings and Social Skills: The Micro Steps. Subscribe for free and see more about Ellen at http://artofbehaviorchange.com/ You can take a free mini assessment which Ellen will reply to with your first action step.

Child molesters and abductors usually look like everyday people. They can be anybody, the teacher, next door neighbor, mailman and they come in all ages, old and young. Tell your kids not to talk to adults they do not know. Anytime they are approached by an unfamiliar adult they should check with a parent or trusted adult immediately!

Often times they will befriend a child by asking for help or offering something for they attention. Some examples are: Asking to help find a lost item or pet, offering reward money or for the very young ones candy or toys for assistance, saying they are good friends with mom or dad, acting like a police officer (children should only approach uniformed police officers, and/or marked police cars).

They may also gain your child’s trust by very minor contacts over several days, such as saying hello to them repeatedly. Make sure your children know to tell you if a stranger is trying to make friends with them right away!

Child molesters and abductors who prey on children wait for the right opportunity, like when the child is alone. Children should not be outside their home by themselves, even for short periods of time. They should walk to and from school and bus stops in groups.

Working together with other families in your neighborhood to develop a formal plan for kids to walk together is a good idea. Parents are encouraged to join or organize a Neighborhood Watch program in their community. A car or other vehicle such as a van is often the means by which the abductor kidnaps the child from the neighborhood. Children should never approach a vehicle unless they are absolutely sure they know the occupants. Abductors entice children to walk near their vehicles with some type of gift or questions and then pull them inside.

If children routinely see the same car parked (or following them) on their normal walking routes (to and from school, etc.) they should report it to trusted adults immediately! And the local police should be notified if strange activity is apparent!

Here are some statistics:

• Approximately 879,000 children (or 12.2 per 1,000) were maltreated (neglected or abused) in 2000.


• Sixty-three percent of maltreated children were neglected, nineteen percent were physically abused, ten percent were sexually abused, and eight percent were emotionally or psychologically maltreated.


• In 2000, 51.9 percent of child victims of maltreatment were female, and 48.1 percent were male.


• The rate of victimization of children was inversely related to the age of the child. Children from birth to age 3 were victimized at the highest rate.


• More than half of all child victims were white (50.6 percent), almost a quarter were black (24.7 percent), and nearly a sixth (14.2 percent) were Hispanic. American Indian/Alaska Natives made up 1.6 percent of victims, and Asian-Pacific Islanders accounted for 1.4 percent.


• Nearly nine percent of child victims experienced recurrence of maltreatment within six months of the initial substantiated incident.


• The majority of perpetrators of child maltreatment in 2000 were women (59.9 percent), while men accounted for 40.1 percent.


• Seventy-nine percent of perpetrators were parents of the maltreated child, and other relatives made up 8.5 percent of perpetrators. Both parents were perpetrators in 18.7 percent of cases.


• Thirty-seven children were killed by their babysitter in 2001.

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A maternity bra is often interchanged with a nursing bra. However, there is a slight difference between these two as maternity bras are specially created to accommodate the expansion of the breasts as these grows in size throughout the pregnancy.

The following are the factors to consider when shopping for the ideal maternity bra.

1. For extra support, the straps (preferably firm and elastic), sides and under-bust band should be wide. A deep center on the front can give added support as well. Such straps can prevent digging into the shoulders.

2. As breasts become more sensitive, there is a need to consider the coverage of the fabric around the breast area. Full coverage gives added comfort.

3. It is known that breasts expand in size throughout the course of pregnancy. This brings about the need to consider the overall adjustability of the maternity bra. It is recommended that four rows of eyes (hook and eye) in the back at a minimum will suffice to permit the bra to grow with the expecting mom. It is not advisable to purchase a loose fitting bra to allow expansion in the later months of pregnancy. One has to keep in mind that buying a bra is primarily for providing sufficient support.

4. It is often the case that pregnant women feel hot. Thus, maternity bras made of cotton fabric will allow the skin to breathe more freely and prevent sweating.

The following are some tips when trying on the maternity bra before the actual purchase.

1. Check if the cups adequately cover the breast and has ample depth. Make sure that there is no breast overflow on top of the cup.

2. If one is buying an underwire bra, check that no part of the breast will be in direct contact with the underwire to prevent any kind of pressure on the breast which can affect breastfeeding. In addition, stay away from rigid underwire and opt for flexible plastic support which are now readily available. Rigid underwire can add pressure on the breast as it expands during the day when milk is present and reduces when milk is not present. This pressure may result in blocked milk ducts.

3. To determine a good fitting bra, make sure that the back is level or parallel. It is no good to have the straps too tight which will only result to digging on the shoulder blades and thus, providing no support at all.

4. One needs to see that the center seam is comfortably against the breast bone. This will contribute to a good fit.

5. Since maternity bras are designed to expand throughout the course of pregnancy, it is recommended that when buying a bra early in the pregnancy to make sure that the bra fastens on the first row of eyes (hook and eye) to leave room for adjusting in the later part of the pregnancy.

6. It is always best to consult a professional in getting the correct fit of the bra.